Sometimes I think it is hard when someone hurts your feelings not to lash out at them. We automatically react based upon emotion. When if we would stop and say, "Did you mean......" most of the time they don't mean it like that. I find more and more that peple really don't realize what they are saying or how it sounds. Give them the benefit of the doubt, or sometime just a palin old out. Sometimes, when they hear you say it they realize that even intentional it was not the thing to say. It will save you a lot of headache/heartache, and the other person will realize just how they sound, and respect you more for truly listening.